Eating in Japan: how to not mess up the experience

Just like everything else, eating in Japan comes with its very own rules and customs.

If you break some of these rules, the Japanese might wince and just roll their eyes at the typical tourist, but some could be called food taboos and breaking them would be deeply offensive.

So, it is a good idea to prepare a bit and learn some table manners.

That’s why we’ve put together this list of tips for eating in Japan. Some items might be logical and well-known, but some could definitely surprise you!

Many restaurants specialize in only one type of food

Be it sushi, okonomiyaki (savoury Japanese pancake-omelette-pizza-thing), tempura (deep-fried seafood, vegetables, mushrooms, or meat) – the list goes on.

okonomiyaki in Japan
Okonomiyaki – one of the meals you definitely have to try in Japan /Image By photosomething/

There are some general restaurants as well that serve many types of food, with the most popular being izakaya, which are like pubs.

You can learn more about different types of Japanese restaurants here.

Vegetarians might have some problems

Eating vegetarian in Japan is rather tricky, and let’s not even talk about eating vegan. Although becoming more popular, the understanding of vegetarianism is rather loose.

For example, if you ask for vegetarian substitutes for food in a restaurant, you might get offered fish or seafood.

Asking for substitutes when eating in Japan is rather taboo – it’s better to choose a meal that you can eat or ask the waiter to recommend something that you can eat.

tempura in japan
Most of the meals are not vegetarian-friendly, so be sure to research them in advance. /Image by shaiith/

Most meals in Japan rely heavily on meat products but going meat-free is rather feasible.

Fish though? Much harder to avoid, as even stock for miso soup or a dipping sauce called tentsuyu is made of dashi, which is a stock made from dried fish, and there are dried fish flakes (bonito flakes) put on many meals.

For a full guide on vegetarian eating in Japan check out this article by Never Ending Voyage.

Some restaurants allow smoking, but they should have a sign on the door stating it

In April 2020, a new smoking ban was introduced in Japan, which prohibits indoor smoking. There are some exceptions, one of which is small restaurants that were opened before the law came into effect. But these restaurants should display a sign stating that smoking is allowed inside.

You might not be let into the restaurant even if there are free tables

There is a deep-rooted need in Japan to deliver the best service possible to their customers. Most restaurants will go out of their way to ensure that the diners have the ultimate experience.

That’s why due to the fear of miscommunication and misunderstandings a non-Japanese speaker might be turned away – it might seem rude, but in all honesty, it’s just extreme perfectionism.

The price range is huge

You can have a tasty bento lunch box from a convenience store (don’t forget that you shouldn’t eat it in public places!) or ramen from a vending machine for 6 EUR (7 USD) or an excellent Kobe beef steak for more than a hundred dollars, and everything in between.

a bento box with rice and tempura shrimps
Don’t be afraid to try a bento box! / by Quang Anh Ha Nguyen/

The great news is that most of the meals are much closer to the cheaper end. While the food in Japan is generally more expensive than elsewhere in Asia, it is in fact cheaper than in USA or Western Europe.

Plus, many places, including some Michelin restaurants, offer excellent value lunch menus. Some of them, in Tokyo, are as cheap as 10EUR (11USD)!

Every single place uses quality ingredients

Doesn’t matter if you have your lunch from a Michelin-starred restaurant or fast food from a yatai – a street food stall, the Japanese still pride themselves on the quality of the food.

Only the finest ingredients will be used to prepare it.

Don’t expect the menu to be in English

Not many of the restaurants offer English menus, but many have pictures on the menu or plastic or wax models of the meals they offer in the restaurant window. That makes ordering your food relatively easy.

plastic restaurant menu items in Japan
The plastic menu items look extremely realistic – when I saw them for the first time, I thought they are real! / image by FotoshopTofs via

Some restaurants, though, have only Japanese text menus or have the offers written on the wall – again, in Japanese.

If you don’t understand the menu, you can try Google translate’s Camera translation option.

Or, if you’re feeling adventurous (and your budget allows for some splurging), you can try asking for the server’s recommendations (osusume) or the chef’s choice (omakase).

Some places have vending machines for ordering

Some less expensive (generally ramen joints) have vending machines for ordering your food.

You press the button for the meal you want, pay, get a ticket that you show the staff, sit down and you’ll get your meal soon.

Mostly the buttons would be in Japanese only, but don’t worry, as the Japanese are keen to help.

Do you know what you’d like? Do you have a picture of it? This is where a bit of knowledge, preparation and googling in advance helps.

Don’t walk around while eating in Japan

Since you probably have very limited time in Japan, you might consider just grabbing some food in a convenience store and eating it on the way.

Don’t do it!

Generally eating and drinking in public, including public transport, is heavily frowned upon, but it’s especially true in shrines and temples.

Exceptions are quiet benches, near vending machines, or parks.

Most stores that sell food have tables for consuming the food that you have purchased.

a view from a cafe in kyoto
The best option is to just sit down somewhere and enjoy a nice snack! /image source – Pixabay

You might have to take your shoes off

If you’re visiting a traditional Japanese restaurant or pub which uses tatami floors, chances are, you’ll have to take your shoes off. It will be either before entering the building or right after.

You’ll be asked to store the shoes in a locker (staff might do it for you) or shelves – don’t worry about them being stolen, as Japan is one of the safest countries in the world.

It is done so that outside germs stay where they’re supposed to, that is, outside, and so that the tatami mats are not damaged.

You might have to sit on the floor

Well, on the floor or on a pillow. Traditionally eating in Japan is done at a small and low table. Although now many of the establishments offer a Western-style of dining, that is, a normal table and chairs, in addition to the traditional Japanese zashiki style seating on the tatami floor.

woman sitting by a low table in Japan
In our ryokan in Gora, we had zashiki style seating

Wet towel (oshibori) before the meal is free

In most restaurants in Japan at the start of your meal you will receive a wet towel – cool in summer and warm in winter. This towel is free of charge so you can clean your hands before eating.

It is called oshibori, and it’s for cleaning your hands.

Do not clean your face or neck with it! Hands only. In hot summer months using oshibori to clean your mouth will be accepted.

After use, fold the towel and put it back on the dish it came on. During the meal, if a need arises, you can clean your fingers with the towel.

Say the Japanese itadakimasu before eating

Literally, it means “I humbly receive”, but it has a bit of deeper meaning as well.

By using itadakimasu you are honouring everyone who made your meal happen – from the plants who grew for your food, to the fishermen who caught the seafood, to the cooks and servers who prepared and brought you the food.

You should never say itadakimasu while holding your chopsticks!

Don’t just dig in the food

In Japanese food culture, it’s a common courtesy to wait for everyone to receive their food before starting the meal. And the main person of the group, be it your boss or the older member of the group, is the first one to start the meal.

In some places, everyone might not receive food at the same time. In this case, if it’s possible, you should wait for everyone to receive their meals and only then start.

Alternatively, you can use the phrase “osaki ni dōzo” (please go ahead) or “osaki ni itadakimasu” (allow me to start before you) so that the meal can be started separately.

Or – there might be otoshi provided, which will avoid the problem of waiting for others!

Otoshi are not free

Drinking and eating in Japan is usually done together, but often the meal that you ordered will arrive sometime after the drinks.

How to solve the problem? Otoshi!

otoshi before eating in Japan
There is a wide variety of otoshi available. /Photo by Jodie Lightfoot on Unsplash

Those are little snacks that you get with your drinks in an izakaya – the traditional Japanese pub-style restaurant.

These snacks are not for free, though, as you might expect. The price of them ranges anywhere from 3 to 6 USD.

You might get water or green tea for free when eating in Japan

After being seated, you might get a glass of water or tea. Don’t worry, unlike otoshi, this is free.

If you’re not served free water or tea is usually available for self-service somewhere in the restaurant.

Almost always chopsticks are used for eating in Japan

As in many other Asian countries, the main utensil used for eating is chopsticks. Yes, even rice and soup are eaten with them. So, if possible, it makes sense that you train using chopsticks at home before going to Japan.

If you have a soup, lift the bowl to your mouth to drink the liquid and use chopsticks to fish out the bigger pieces. For ramen, use the chopsticks to lead the noodles into your mouth. There might be a spoon provided – in that case, use it to drink the liquid.

eating a miso soup with chopsticks and a spoon
A spoon and chopsticks – how to eat soup in Japan. / image by RODNAE Productions via

For some meals such as curries usually large spoons are provided instead of chopsticks.

Chopstick etiquette in Japan

Regarding chopsticks, there are some specific rules. Again.

Because Japan takes chopsticks, and the food culture in general, very seriously.

So, we made a separate list of Japan’s chopstick etiquette.

1. Do not point with chopsticks

It’s as insulting as pointing a finger at a person in Western countries.

Chopsticks should only be held when you plan to use them for eating, otherwise, you can be pretty sure that you’re breaking the chopstick etiquette rules.

2. Put your chopsticks on the chopstick rest when you don’t use them

When you’re not using your chopsticks, put them on the chopstick rest.

chopsticks on a chopstick rest PublicDomainPictures / 17901 images via pixabay
Just like this. /image by PublicDomainPictures / 17901 images via pixabay

There is usually a small chopstick holder provided where you should place them when not in use. The rest will not be provided if the chopsticks are disposable – in this case, just fold the paper wrapping they came into a kind of little table.

3. Do not use your chopsticks as a toy

Don’t use them as drum sticks by tapping them on the sides of plates or glasses. It is considered very rude and childish.

There is an old suspicion that tapping against bowls attracts evil spirits, so definitely don’t tap your chopsticks when eating in Japan.

4. Do not stick chopsticks upright in rice (or any other food, for that matter)

Sticking chopsticks in a bowl of rice is a funeral tradition in Japan. So, if you do it in a restaurant, it will be seen as a great lack of respect.

On the same note, don’t use one chopstick to eat your food – that is, don’t stick your chopstick in food like you would a fork. That is called tsuki-bashi and is considered very rude.

5. Do not pass food with chopsticks

Sometimes (ok, very often) the food in Japan is just so good that you want to share it with someone else in your company to try – and you might want to give it straight from your chopsticks to theirs.

But passing food between chopsticks is considered very taboo when eating, as the bones of the deceased are passed this way during funeral rituals.

If you’d like to share your food with others, just put it directly on a plate and pass the plate to them.

6. If taking food from another person’s plate, use the other end of chopsticks

On that note, if you’d like to take some food from your travel partner’s plate, don’t use the thin end of the chopsticks that you use for eating normally, but the other one.

This is not a strong taboo, but you’ll definitely receive some appreciating looks!

sushi plate to share Photo by Diego Pontes from Pexels
The restaurant might provide a special set of chopsticks used for putting food on your plate. / Photo by Diego Pontes from Pexels

7. Do not rub chopsticks together

If the restaurant provides disposable chopsticks that need to be broken apart, you might get an inkling to rub them together to get rid of any splinters. Don’t do it, though!

Rubbing chopsticks together is another kind of food taboo in Japan.

It will be insulting to the staff, as it’s a sign that you think the chopsticks are cheap and low quality.

8. Do not cross your chopsticks

In China, crossed chopsticks (when they are put in an X position) represent death itself.

It’s not really associated with death in Japan, but still reminds people of funeral ceremonies.

Related: More tips for travelling around Japan

How to eat sushi correctly

Sushi is probably one of the most popular Japanese food items in the world.

As with other food, sushi has adapted to many different countries, and so is eating it.

sushi image by Adamsov via Pixabay
The best sushi in the world is in Japan. / image by Adamsov via Pixabay

There are, of course, some rules for sushi eating in Japan, which you shouldn’t break to not offend the Japanese.

1. Know the difference between sushi and sashimi

Sashimi is slices of raw meat (most typically fish, but it can be red meat as well)

Sushi is vinegar, salt, and sugar seasoned rice served with other ingredients, which is commonly raw fish, but it doesn’t have to be.

There are different types of sushi. The most popular are maki (seaweed sheet wrapped around rice and fillings), uramaki (inside-out maki – seaweed in the middle, rice and fillings on the outside), and nigiri (one ingredient served on top of rice).

2. Do not add wasabi

The sushi that require wasabi will already be seasoned with it. If you try to add it to the soy sauce or directly on the sushi, you’ll offend the chef (and probably will get scolded by him, like, hm, I did…)

3. Do not cut the sushi in half

Or rather don’t use your chopstick to push it in half. This way you’ll destroy both the visual presentation and the taste.

sushi on a plate
All of the ingredients are there to provide the perfect balance of taste. / image by Wetmount via Pixabay

4. Do not stab your chopstick in the sushi

As I mentioned in the chopstick etiquette part of this article, do not ever stab your food, as it’s rude and definitely one of the food taboos in Japan.

5. Use your fingers if you must

In the beginning, sushi was considered to be a fast-food dish, so it was eaten with your fingers. Now however it’s more popular to eat it with chopsticks.

But still, it’s completely ok to use your fingers if you’re unsure of your chopstick skills.

6. Do not put too much soy sauce in the dish

Put only a minimal amount of soy sauce in your dish. Overserving the soy sauce is considered bad manners, as you’re wasting food this way.

On the other hand, it’s customary to leave a tiny bit in your dish when you’re finished.

soy sauce being poured
A little bit of soy sauce is more than enough. /Photo by GoodEats YQR on Unsplash

7. Do not soak the rice in soy sauce

If you put the rice part of sushi in the soy sauce, it will soak the rice and make it taste too salty.

Just use your middle finger and the thumb (if eating with your hands) to hold the rice and your index finger to hold the fish. For eating, turn your nigiri around and dip just a corner of your fish in the soy sauce.

8. Reset your taste buds with ginger

Each piece of sushi is made to have the perfect taste combinations.

So, if you still have the previous taste lingering around your mouth, it will disturb the next one.

To reset the taste buds, eat a little bit of pickled ginger before trying out the next sushi!

Slurping is ok, but loud chewing is not when eating in Japan

Slurping your noodles is considered a sign that you’re enjoying your food very much. As an added bonus, it cools down the noodles!

On the other hand, blowing your nose at the table, audible chewing, and burping is definitely taboo. If you need to blow your nose, just excuse yourself to the bathroom.

Finish your food

One of the fundamental concepts in Japanese culture is mottainai, which is a feeling of regret when you waste something.

You shouldn’t order more food than you can finish, as it’s definitely a food taboo in Japan. An even bigger taboo is ordering something more, like a dessert, when you haven’t finished the food that you have already.

So make sure to not order too many main meals, so you can try out that incredible matcha ice cream at the end without offending anyone!

Put your dishes back to how they were when you received the food

It’s common courtesy in many cultures and might not be liked in some others, but it’s expected that you put your dishes back to the way you received them after eating in Japan.

lunch in a restaurant in Kyoto station
How you received it, so you should return it. Minus the food, of course.

Put the plates on the tray, if you have it, replace the lids on the bowls, and put the chopsticks on the chopstick rest or back in the paper wrapper.

It might not be possible to pay with a card

Japan is still largely a cash society.

Although paying with cards (or IC cards like Suica) is becoming more and more popular in Japan, still, many of the more traditional places accept only cash. So make sure you have enough!

After you finish your meal, the waiter will bring you a check and put it face down. Most probably you’ll have to bring your bill and pay at the cash by the entrance.

No tipping!

Excellent service in Japan is standard and expected, hence tipping is not. It might even be considered rude and taboo, as it implies that the restaurant is not doing well enough to pay a decent wage to its workers.

If you leave a tip, don’t be surprised if the worker runs after you to return it.

After eating, say the Japanese “thank you for the food”

After you finish your meal, it’s common courtesy to thank the hosts for the food.

Instead of saying a plain thank you, after eating in Japan, gochisosama or the more formal gochisōsama deshita is used.

Literally translated, it means It was a great deal of work, but, similarly to itadakimasu, it has a deeper meaning. By using gochisosama, you are being grateful to everyone who was involved with your food.

Since most probably you will have to pay for your meal at a cash register near the entrance, you should say the gochisōsama deshita there.

Failing to say thank you for the food in Japan is a big no-no.

Summary about eating in Japan

While it may seem that eating in Japan comes with too many rules and taboos, it’s not actually anything too crazy.

Of course, some of the things like slurping noodles and drinking soup straight from the bowl seem unusual to the Westerner’s ear, but it all comes with the incredible experience that is Japan.

Do you know of any other interesting customs and rules about eating in Japan?

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